It's not that she doesn't want to find a job, she says. Um. He has been negating him all the time, and has not given him the opportunity to grow up and experience. No matter what the girl put forward, his mother always belittled him and denied him.
This girl's situation deeply resonates with me, because I was born into such a family. Almost can not get the idea, sure parents brought to themselves, always endless reprimand and deny other people's children, always better than themselves. It's wrong in their eyes.
They can always find fault. I have all kinds of bad things in my body, but I can never see my shining point. I don't know how to praise me. In the end, it didn't get a good result. Children who grow up in learned helplessness eventually choose to give up. It's the girl's silent revenge.
Everyone is eager for appreciation and affirmation from others. The best reward for the present.